Healing Trauma and Your Inner Child
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT explores the concept of the "inner-child" and how it can be healed after trauma.
Living with a Narcissist
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT explores the realities of life with a narcissistic partner.
How Trauma Can Hijack Your Life
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT discusses how trauma can change the way we react to possible threats and dangers.
Mental Health & Relationships: Is Someone “Playing the Victim”?
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses what it means for someone to "play the victim" in a relationship, and how a partner can tell if they are being manipulated.
5 Tips on How to Keep New Year’s Resolutions
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT explains why resolutions can fail, and gives 5 tips for making lasting changes in the New Year.
9 Tips for Coping with Holiday Depression and Stress
Darlene Lancer, LMFT shares tips for dealing with depression and anxiety during the holiday season.
Is Your Relationship Toxic?
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT discusses toxic relationships, and what to do if you find yourself in one.
Gratitude and Mental Health: How to Feel Thankful Despite Challenges
Darlene Lancer, J.D., M.F.T. discusses the important role gratitude plays in emotional health, and gives tips to feel thankful despite challenges.
Dealing With Relationship Anxiety
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT discusses the signs and causes of relationship anxiety, and offers tools to fight it.
Signs of Healthy Boundaries
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT explains the value of healthy boundaries, and gives 10 signs that you have them.
Individuation: From Codependent Chameleon to Selfhood
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT discusses how one's concept of self can be obscured by codependency, and shares ways to move towards "individuation".
CRAFT: Helping People with Addiction Get Treatment
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT discusses the pros and cons of the CRAFT method of helping a loved one with addiction issues get help.
Mental Health & Relationships: Understanding Trauma Bonds
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT discusses the phenomena of the "trauma bond", and the role it can play in relationships.
Mental Health & Relationships: Recognizing Abusive DARVO Tactics
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT explains the D.A.R.V.O. tactic that abusers use to manipulate victims.
The Codependent False Self
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT explains the concept of a false self and its effects on mental health.
Dealing with Aggressive People
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT covers how to navigate conflicts with aggressive people.
The Narcissistic Parent
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT discusses narcissistic parents, and how they can create toxic households.
Narcissists’ Dirty Little Secret
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT discusses the feelings that narcissists hide, and how to look out for their methods of obfuscation.
How to Be Present
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT discusses what being "present" means, and how to be it more often.
Splitting: Why We Love Dr. Jekyll and Hate Mr. Hyde
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT discusses "splitting", and the emotional and phycological effects it can have in relationships.
How Self-Love is Key to Codependency Recovery
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses the role self-acceptance and self-love play in recovering from codependency, and offers tips to achieve both.
Are You a Narcissist’s Supply?
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses how people with narcissistic personality disorder may use others to feed their needs.
Hiding Your “True Self”: The Seeds of Codependency
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses how our "true self" develops, and how it can be obscured by codependency.
Are Empaths Codependent?
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT looks at the relationship between empathy and codependency.
Steps To Codependency Recovery
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses the progressive nature of codependency, and offers steps for recovery.
Learned Helplessness Is Not a Life Sentence
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT looks at "learned helplessness", and how to overcome it.
How are Your Boundaries in the Pandemic?
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT shares tips for maintaining healthy boundaries during the pandemic.
Mental Health & Relationships: When Narcissists Won’t Let Go
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses strategies to deal with a narcissist that won't let go.
Why It’s Hard To Receive
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses why it can feel uncomfortable to receive.
Tactics Narcissists Use to Gain Self-Esteem & Power
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses the ways narcissists increase their self-esteem and feel power over others.
Codependency, Trauma, and Healing
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses the recovery and healing process after traumatic codependent relationships.
4 Types of Narcissism Share This Trait
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses multiple forms of narcissism, and highlights a trait they all have in common.
Mental Health & Relationships: Dating a Narcissist
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT offers tools for recognizing if someone is dating a narcissist.
Mental Health & Relationships: Cultivating Love
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT offers 7 tips to cultivate love in your life in mentally healthy ways.
Mental Health & Relationships: Detaching From Unhealthy Situations
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses ways to recognize when a relationship has become unhealthy, and gives tips for how to detach from it.
Recognizing Sibling Bullying and Abuse
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT looks at the often ignored problem of sibling bullying and abuse, and highlights ways to detect it.
Mental Health & Relationships: How Our Partners Can Control Our Brains
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses how our partners can have the ability to control our minds.
Sons of Narcissistic Mothers
By Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT Motherhood and Narcissism All children of narcissists suffer. Narcissistic mothers…
The Differences Between Narcissism And Self-Love
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT explores the differences between narcissism and self-love.
How Shame Becomes Toxic
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT explains what shame is, how it feels, and how it can become toxic.
Mental Health & Relationships: Loving an Abuser
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT explains why people fall in love with abusers, and offers steps to end abusive relationships.
Mental Health & Relationships: Why “Ghosting” Happens
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses 8 reasons "ghosting" happens, and offers tips for coping.
Overcoming Trauma After Abuse
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses how to deal with the traumatic aftermath of relationships involving abuse.
Mental Health & Relationships: Avoiding Manipulation
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses manipulation within interpersonal relationships, and offers ways to identify the tactics of manipulators.
Can Therapy Help Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses whether or not therapy can be helpful to people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
What is Self Esteem?
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT details what self-esteem is, and looks at the powerful connections it has to our emotional well-being
Why Narcissists Act the Way They Do
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses the psychological and emotional origins of narcissistic traits.
Mental Health & Relationships: How to Leave a Narcissist or Abuser
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT offers tips for overcoming self doubt while ending relationships with narcissistic or abuse partners.
Need-Fulfillment: the Key to Happiness
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT explains how meeting our needs may be the key to happiness.
What is a Covert Narcissist?
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT explains the characteristics of covert narcissists, and looks at their impacts on relationships.
What is the Imposter Syndrome?
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses "imposter syndrome": feeling like a fraud due to self-doubt and lack of confidence.
What Is A Narcissist?
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses how to recognize traits common to people with narcissistic personality traits.
Recognizing & Overcoming Denial
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses the unhealthy role denial can play in our lives, and how to change our actions and overcome it.
Mental Health & Relationships: Narcissists and “Love Bombs”
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses the concept of "love bombs" and the role they can play in relationships with narcissism.
Mental Health & Relationships: Overcoming Codependency
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses how codependency can develop inside of relationships, and gives tools for overcoming it.
When Parenting Becomes Toxic
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses how emotionally toxic relationships can form between parents and children, and tools on what to do when it happens.
Mental Health & Relationships: Can a Narcissist Love?
People who love narcissists are starved for expressions of love. But, narcissists are capable of giving them? Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT answers that question in this article.
How Cognitive Distortions Harm Us
If you suffer from anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, or perfectionism, your thinking can skew your perceptions. Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT explores how these skewed perceptions can result in cognitive distortions.
Mental Health & Relationships: Confronting Abuse
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses abuse in relationships with narcissists, and highlights ways to effectively confront it.
Mental Health & Relationships: Navigating Codependency
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT discusses the challenges of codependency, and offers tips for navigating the relationship and mental health challenges it can inspire.
Mental Health & Relationships: Warning Signs of Dating a Narcissist
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT highlights some of the common warning signs, and blind spots, related to dating someone with narcissistic personality traits.
6 Tips For a Mentally Healthy Valentine’s Day
Darlene Lancer, MFT gives 6 tips for making sure your Valentine's Day is enjoyable, and good for your mental health.
Mental Health & Relationships: the Stress of Dating Narcissists
Darlene Lancer discusses the mental health strains that can be caused by relationships with people exhibiting narcissism.
The Symptoms of Codependency
Darlene Lancer, MFT lists the symptoms and signs that someone may be suffering from codependency.
Trauma, PTSD, and Codependency: How Life Experiences Affect Our Relationships
Darlene Lancer explores trauma's influence on relationships, and the connection between codependency and PTSD.
